Quintessential healing quests

 




My Dearest Sunbeam!

How are you? How has the past couple of weeks been? Are you feeling well? I hope and pray all things are fine with you.

What will today’s letter be about? After a lot of poking and prodding at my brain, I have decided that today’s letter will feature the joys of humour. This has to be the most ironic sentence I have written and I own it with cheeky amounts of unnecessary pride. Humour is an amazing coping mechanism; it really gives an amazing perspective on the most mundane and sometimes severely traumatic things. Its like cracking a laugh at funeral. Humour is that, it is also childlike giggles.

Humour, food and music have been my top 3 ways to cope with things. Humour though is completely subjective. It works only when I have made peace with what has hurt me and I give myself the space to laugh at it. That is my personal flaw, I laugh at my own issues, but when someone else points out and laughs at it with me or without me that somehow stings a lot more. I have given up on relationships because of the way I utilize my humour. How do you use humour? Does it really help you feel better about yourself? For me personally, humour is an amazing way to deal with loss, anger, grief. I cry, I let it out then I laugh at the sheer stupidity of the situation and how dumb I can be at times. Laughing at yourself should be a separate type of healing.

Healing comes in stages, delusion, acknowledgement, crying, anger and laughter. I am at all the stages at the same time, does that make sense? Healing is never ever been linear for anyone. You think you heal only to see the scab of your wound being pulled away and it stings all over again. That is also the best part, and that is exactly where humour comes in clutch. Laugh at it, the problem I mean. Laugh at it. Throw bad jokes at it and cry about it, then get completely angry at the problem and at yourself for giving up on standards, morals, values and self-respect. Then enter delusion, a fun state of mind where all you can think of is the could been, should have been, may have been and you cannot help but wonder why me, or why not me. I am here to tell you, well weird twist of fate, here you are. Humour helps, so does good food, great music and healthy energy. Surround yourself with the love and energy that you show for others and watch yourself recover. 

I am not sure if it is a good thing or a bad thing to have this completely nonchalant feeling towards a problem (this is the delusion I was talking about earlier) Healing is good, heal yourself and learn before you jump into doing something dumb all over again. Well that concludes today’s rambling of nonsense. I love you so much my Sunshine, I wish to hug you and look into your eyes soon. I also hope we can have a good laugh together soon.

 

Lots of love and kisses

-         Jess

 

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